THE EQUALITARIAN DOMINANT1
The Equalitarian Dominant is one who controls by teaching, mentoring and leading. This Dominant feels and knows that when they find a comparable submissive that things will happen as a progression of the interaction. Usually, just a mention or short learning situation is necessary to obtain a certain interaction.
Both the Dominant and the submissive “get it”, need very little, so-called “training” and naturally know what the other needs after interacting. This Dominant does not like the situation of constantly repeating and forcing a particular behavior (submission) to occur.
It is not the activities but the surrender as the result of the Domination that is the objective and enjoyment. Creativity is an important part of this situation. These Dominants are more intellectual and into the philosophy/psychology mechanism of this lifestyle.
They understand the concepts and resultant interactions and can put it into real life. They do not need many “rules” like the Democratic type , nor do they like the heavy S&M activities; preferring submission to occur as a result of an instilled desire in the submissive to surrender. He “wants” to as a result of the Dominant’s knowledge and skill at Dominating.
Sensuousness is the rule and pain given and received as a form of sensuous stimulation. Light pain as opposed to severe. Sensuous torture is a popular activity in this area. Both the Dominant and the submissive must be naturally this way. These are the ones who claim to be born this way, have always been this way.
They fully understand the concept of D/s – it comes to them naturally and easily. They attract a submissive who truly and naturally wants to please, and who will observe and sense what the dominant is communicating, and be able to translate that into the right thing to do. The doing or saying without having to be told type.
The submissives beg easily and surrender sweetly. They understand the concept of respect and surrender and can make it happen after initial learning with little or no additional instructions. They embrace the surrender gratefully and lovingly. These individuals usually form the most intimate of relationships, the closest.
There is not much downside to these relationships, because they not only grasp the concepts but can make it happen too; and their attraction is based on strong mutual respect. Their strong relationship is not readily apparent to the unobservant, but they are always subtly in the 24-7 mode.
The fact that these things come forth naturally, and without the need for orders or rules, are a great affirmation, a source of pride, satisfaction, and loving. Just as the strictness and forbearance without the need for orders or rules of the Authoritarian/Totalitarian situation affirm pride, satisfaction, and loving.
1 – This piece comes from a now defunct website, and was edited for grammar and punctuation. I take no credit for the original writing or the website and copyright infringement is not intended. The author’s real name was never revealed, but I have since found the article in its entirety here.