The FCR Concept helps you develop the relationship you desire.
Introducing The FCR Concept
I would love to learn how to make [The FCR Concept] part of our life. We are excellent communicators, open-minded, and continue to build and grow through [male] chastity. I think your concept would be perfect for us.
Undoubtedly, at least once in your life, you have been where this couple is. I am flattered that you feel The FCR Concept is worth your time. Admittedly, I would love to be your guide as you learn and apply the four core principles to your relationship.
I am not a miracle worker and, I suspect, neither are you. As a result, you will require time to learn, apply, and master each of the principles. I work with couples on a bi-weekly basis, which gives them the opportunity to practice what they learn. In fact, the way I present The FCR Concept makes it easier to pace yourself. At the end of each chapter, I suggest the average time it takes to learn and apply each principle.
Take Your Time
According to Maxwell Maltz’s findings, it takes 21 days minimum to become accustomed to a major change to one’s self-image (e.g., a nose job, the loss of a limb, etc.). Some interpret Maltz’s writings to mean that it takes 21 days to form a new habit. However, I researched this topic thoroughly and I learned it takes more than two months before a new behavior becomes automatic.
In Phillippa Lally’s study, published in the European Journal of Social Psychology, she found behavior modification takes 66 days. Of course, there are exceptions to every rule. Her study also found some people needed anywhere from 18 to 254 days to change their behavior.
If you hope to achieve a complete turnaround in a handful of sessions, you are setting yourself up to fail. By applying The FCR Concept, you are reshaping your entire relationship. This means learning new ways of thinking, behaving, responding, and communicating. Attempting to change in a few sessions would be overwhelming — and likely impossible — for anyone. In the end, you will be frustrated, which no one wants.
It is healthier to allow for mistakes, setbacks, and distractions. Then, resume reaching for your goal without guilt. I believe accountability is a healthy tool to use, provided you do not feel guilt, shame, or embarrassment when you cannot meet a goal.
Your excitement at finding The FCR Concept is something I understand, but be patient with developing your ideal relationship. Learn where your relationship requires change. Rediscover the strengths upon which you can build your Female-Centric Relationship. If you become exhausted by the pace you set, slow down and do what you can sustain effortlessly.
Let us begin with an overview of The FCR Concept and dispel some of the myths about this new approach.
Part One: What Is The FCR Concept™?
The FCR Concept™ is a four-facet approach to building a healthy, sustainable Female-Centric Relationship. It begins simply with your ability to apply the concept. The Four Core Principles and practical applications help you develop a Female-Centric Relationship. Each chapter in this section focuses on one principle with questions and challenges to help you apply what you learn.
The FCR Concept is a flexible relationship concept that encourages and supports growth in individuals and couples alike. It is not a lifestyle but a relationship concept, much like monogamy is a relationship concept. By applying The FCR Concept, you avoid common relationship issues because all the information you need is given to you.
I developed The FCR Concept while working as a relationship coach. My accumulated personal and professional knowledge and experience gave me unique insight into relationships. Relationship problems share one commonality: basic relationship building and communication skills.
The FCR Concept Focuses on the Connection We Share, Not What We Do
Too often, we lose sight of who we are and who our partner is. We distract ourselves by keeping busy and packing our schedules and lives with activities to keep us from feeling anything. By applying The FCR Concept, we bring ourselves back to what is important.
First, the concept strips all that away and brings you back to what truly matters. It helps you reconnect with your relationship, your connection, your partner, and your sense of self. Then, The FCR Concept encourages you to live with integrity. It inspires you to be open to change and to your partner. Next, become empowered to be vulnerable, courageous, and true to the life you genuinely want.
Finally, by applying The FCR Concept, you shed the ideals of what society and the media says you should be doing. Shedding those notions allows you to reconnect with your intuition. Your intuition tells you who you truly are and what you need in your relationship.
The FCR Concept Gives Us the Tools Needed to Successfully Navigate Relationship Challenges
By giving yourselves the foundation for transparency, vulnerability, and connection, you can work through any relationship problem as well as any problems outside your relationship. Develop a stronger sense of teamwork with your partner. Learn to approach all problems as a unit and grow closer in the process.
Rediscover who you are. Fall in love with your partner again. Find a renewed sense of connection with the life and relationship you have created.
What Are the Principles?
A woman takes the lead in communication and has the responsibility for the relationship centered squarely on her shoulders. It is her responsibility to explore everyone’s needs through clear, honest, direct, and consistent communication. By teaching her mate how to value her, he finds his purpose and, through that purpose, his value to her.
Learn to become vulnerable to one another through transparent honesty. With practice, eliminate all shame, guilt, resentment, insecurity, fear, and judgment from your relationship. Replace negative emotion and distance with a deeper connection and an unconditional, limitless love.
Use the knowledge acquired through the first three principles to bring out the best in yourselves. Bring out the best in your partner. Challenge yourself. Continue to grow and refine yourself. Be accountable in the way or ways to which you respond best.
Unlearn every fallacy you learned about relationships. Replace them with workable solutions to any problem by establishing a relationship design. Creating a relationship design is the first step toward unbridled passion, mutual sexual exploration, and limitless growth potential.
Part Two: Debunking the Myths
After sharing The FCR Concept publicly, I spent the next few years debunking myths and answering questions about it. Not surprisingly, many of the questions I received stemmed from the same misunderstandings.
Myth #1: The FCR Concept Is Contemporary Cuckoldry
Generally, The FCR Concept and Female-Centric Relationships are not synonymous with Contemporary Cuckoldry. Rather, this concept helps you develop better communication, relationship, and personal growth skills. You can apply The FCR Concept to any relationship design. Contemporary Cuckoldry is one of many relationship designs that benefits from The FCR Concept.
Before exploring Contemporary Cuckoldry, if it interests you, I recommend learning and applying The FCR Concept. The concept gives you a solid framework within which you can explore anything you desire. Typically, without The FCR Concept in place, you face more challenges from the complications that arise while exploring Contemporary Cuckoldry.
Myth #2: The FCR Concept Is Only for Kinky Dominant Women and Submissive Men
Frequently, I mentor people who do not consider themselves kinky. I designed the concept so it would work with any dynamic. It works for female- and male-dominated relationships, for single, couples, and poly units. Likewise, it works for people of any ethnicity, religious background, political affiliation, and socioeconomic standing. Amazingly, you can teach your children The FCR Concept!
A common misconception is that The FCR Concept is a form of female domination. However, submissive women, dominant men, and people who prefer no power dynamic find The FCR Concept useful as well. Whether dominant, submissive, or somewhere in between, you can apply The FCR Concept to your relationship. I write from a dominant, kinky woman’s perspective because this is how I apply the concept to my relationship. Do what works for you.
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